Posted on Aug 13, 2018 in Elderly Loss
After the Second World War, the ability to own property was part of the American dream. The younger generation today feels exactly the opposite. What happens when a minimalist, at the age of ten, inherits ten boxes of photos from his grandfather? Or when a great-aunt transmits thousand year old family heirlooms to someone with a 450-square-foot apartment?
Fortunately, there are new ways to remember our loved ones, and here are six unique patterns.
Ways To Remember Loved Ones
This is a term for remembering non-physical things that are important to us, such as family history, cultural knowledge and experiences – and the voice and behavior of your loved one. With smartphones, almost anyone can record these meaningful experiences. You can use audio to capture favorite stories of your loved one, or use a camera to record them and prepare a special video. The strong cultural heritage of your family can also be conveyed through songs, dances or other expressions that can be transmitted by video. You can also save your favorite memories and give them as a gift to the family, on a single USB port. With apps like Immortalia, you can even easily organize stories of your loved ones in a simple and elegant way that you can visit anytime in the cloud.
Although a quilt is not high tech, it’s an innovative way to reuse your loved one’s possessions. Instead of bringing your old clothes to goodwill or storing them in your spare cabinet, you can use old clothes for a commemorative quilt that will bring you closer to your family. There are many online businesses specializing in the production of souvenir quilts, but if you own a sewing machine, you can make quilts relatively easily. They can also be a useful activity to share with children and other family members.
Burnt remains are now even high fashion with cremation jewelry and 3D printed urns, the ability to send your ashes into space or turn their leftovers into fireworks. You can even make a record with the ashes of your loved one. Andvinyl, based in the UK, specializes in transforming cremated remains into real, playable recordings of a loved one’s voice or favorite songs. These recordings can be beautifully presented when not in use and make very special gifts for other family members.
If your senior was more comfortable in nature, a biodegradable urn can bring new life to their ashes. With these urns, you can grow a tree or plant from cremated remains. With Bios Incube, you can even grow a tree in a minimalist high-tech urn that monitors the growth of your tree. For those who are passionate about the environment, recomposing allows you to return to earth while giving back to the planet. Bios Incube uses a process to gently turn leftovers into soil that improves the health of the Earth. In fact, the company believes that this process will reduce each person’s carbon footprint by more than a ton.
If you have inherited furniture for which you have no room, there are many imaginative ways to turn old pieces into new ones. The internet is full of tips and tricks for converting old furniture and cabinets into ladders and more. From a piece of furniture to a special tribute to your senior, you can use a technique called decoupage to decorate coffee tables, wall decor and other furniture that you like with memories. You can use any paper material for decoupage, including copies of old family photos, letters or sides of your seniors favorite books. Your not only beautiful but vibrant furniture can display your memories by housing old photos and letters which can also thin your collection of storage boxes. With this method you can preserve the memories and moment you’ve enjoyed for generations to come.
This trick is by no means a new innovation, but it is something that many people face after the death of a loved senior. It’s common to feel guilty if you donate things that belonged to a loved one or toss them, and it’s easy to keep more in the end than you really need or want. But most likely, your senior did not want you to feel overwhelmed by material things. Instead, they would probably want you to keep only things that give you real pleasure. Having some special objects on the screen is much more important than storing many objects in memory. Take Marie Kondo’s advice: touch each object, thank you for giving your senior a fulfilling life, then decide if it will make you happy. If so, keep it. If not, it is good to donate so that your loved one’s objects can make the person’s life a little easier.
When a close relative dies, you may be faced with the heavy responsibility of closing the person’s life. There are a lot of things to consider, paying tribute to closing bank accounts and stopping a gym membership. And many tasks require attention to detail, which adds to an emotional moment. To deal with it, cut yourself a bit of slack: do not try to manage everything yourself if it’s not necessary. “This burden should not be transferred to one person,” says Sally Hurme, senior AARP lawyer and author of the ABA family wealth checklist. “If people ask what they can do to help, take advantage of the offer, delegate.” To do this, you must have a complete picture of what to do. Here is a checklist to make your job easier. When reviewing, consider what’s in stock, which companies you can share, and who can best manage them.
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If you are worried about the financial and emotional uncertainties of your senior’s retirement, then consider visiting a senior living community at one of our numerous Landmark Senior Living locations! At our senior living communities, we offer programs and services designed to enlighten and engage all residents. If you or someone you love is considering a senior living facility, take the first step today and reach out to our passionate staff at Landmark Senior Living.